Looking forward to things is great. Does it actually make us happier? No doubt for some experiences the build up makes the pay off all the more delicious. It can work against us, though. A focus on the future takes us away from the present, and what happens if the anticipated event doesn't deliver?
Last week I had a lesson on this very topic. I went to a social event with a group of people I hadn't met before. Afterwards I felt totally deflated and it took me a little while to work out why. They were perfectly nice people I had not much in common with. I had gone along with what I thought had been an open mind. Really I had hoped to find a collection of fun like-minded souls who might become part of my new post-corporate network. I would have had a much better time if I had arrived without those expectations.
Coming up this week I have a number of events that are highly charged with expectations if I allow them to be.
Goodbye expectations, hello take it as it comes.....